OP - Embrace the change. Kids can be cool. Do some bonding and try and show them something they dont know, they will think you're pretty cool. And obviously try and do it without a drink. I get along really well with my step daughter. Tonight we had a nerf gun fight for a bit then I got to watch the UFC fights. Sure i'd like to be at the strip club with the boys or something but I took on the relationship and with that comes sacrifices. I will tell you that I didn't have as much stuff as I do now when I was going for Party Boy of the year. Make yourself happy, if you cant with the kids/wife then move on.