Advice on potential dangerous situation ...

[Spdu4ia]

I haven't been a member here long but have gotten a lot of valuable advice from you guys so I will tell you a story and you tell me what you think should be my next course of action...

My wife has started to have some trouble with an old friend. She has known this guy for about 30 years . They were close friends in middle and high school and kept in touch through college and up until about 6 years ago when he pronounced his dying love for her . She did not reciprocate and told him he was mistaken and that they were only friends and have only ever been friends all their lives and that she was married and he needed to respect that. He does work overseas and is in and out of the country , he has been married 4 times and seems to contact her every time he gets divorced since he says, "he compares every other woman to her " . All of this happened in Louisiana where she lived all her life. We moved here to colorado about 3 years ago. We usually would hear from him every few years for a few weeks and then he would go dig a hole somewhere and disappear.

Last week he started texting her again about how she was the only one and that he was lost without her. He then showed up to her work to wait for her to get off and texted her that he was waiting outside for her to "decide his fate". Luckily she had gone home early and was at home during this time (she did not tell him that) and just told him she wouldn't see him and that it wasn't healthy what he is doing and he stopped texting. The next day while I was at work he texted her small talk and she ignored him and as soon as I got home from work he stopped. I suspect he was watching our neighborhood. We found out he is living in Denver now weirdly enough recently.

We filed a report with the local police department so that thy have a record of the incident. Nothing criminal "yet" but she wanted them to be aware. We both decided didn't want to ruin his life with a a restraining order yet since if he has government contracts to work overseas I'm sure that would hinder that and send him over the edge to do something....anything. We did not tell him we filled anything yet because we did not want to escalate him.

Last night he started texting again and she told him he crossed the line and that he was making her uncomfortable and that they could not be friends and that she did not want to have any contact with him any longer. He then said fine she "would not see him again" but then followed with more text saying he was going to move to Colorado Springs for work. She didn't reply to any of this because its just a temp to get her to have dialogue. The texts stopped last night but who knows what he will do next.

We are both CCW holders and try to constantly be aware of our surroundings anyway but aside from setting up a trench around the house I worry about her home alone or going to work and getting off at night. I guess this is more of a vent and to get others opinions on the situation and ideas of how to handle this. Thanks for listening.