Advice on potential dangerous situation ...

[PugnacAutMortem]

I'll definitely look into the TPO . We are keeping full records of everything and all contact has been in text form that we are keeping , all time stamped. At this point we are hoping he has gotten the point and there will be no further communication. There definitely won't be from our side. If there is then we will inform him of our next action of a RO and go from there. Currently he doesn't know we've made a report and spoken to the police. I have no intention of placing his well being over my family,

Honestly...if you're not legally obligated to inform him you are getting a RO I wouldn't. If he tries to contact again just go get the RO. The old addage is true...actions speak louder than words.

[wreave]

There's been lots of good advice given. Document everything, and the police report was a good idea.

I hate having to change phone numbers because of a dickhead. Try blocking his number first. If he changes his number to get around the block, then you should be able to get a restraining order. Having to change your number that all your friends have is unfair.

The trail camera is a great idea.

Don't tell him you're armed, don't tell him you carry, don't make any threats that would lead him to escalate. If he gets unhinged and decides to show up at the house, you want him there with a baseball bat, not a shotgun.

Keep the doors locked at all times; don't open the door unless you know who's there and it's someone you're expecting.

Especially at this time of year, when it's dark, don't let your wife walk to her car alone after work. Not sure where she works, but get someone in her office to walk her to her car.

It sounds like you've discussed this, but if he shows up in the home, for any reason, draw and aim and tell him to leave. Not for any reason or subterfuge allow him to get close.

If you have a way to get a message to him, I would give him a written warning that any further attempt to contact you or your wife will result in a restraining order. If a restraining order will mess up his job and his life, it's fair to give him a chance. Guys do stupid things and he may need a reality check. Don't compromise your safety to give him one, but give him a chance if you can.

If you have an armed, like-minded buddy that lives nearby, give him the scoop and ask him to be on standby. That way if you see a suspicious car, you don't have to leave the house. Call your buddy and have him do a drive-by/walk-by.

[cofi]

he is from Puerto Rico, how about cutting him some slack?

and he speaks better english then me

[theGinsue]

im just curious...

how did he find her in Colorado?
how did he get her phone number?

does you wife want to be found?

im not implying she does, but how does someone out of her life, get her personal contact information? If she hasnt changed her number since 6 years ago, she needs to. and if she places all her life on facebook, she shouldnt.

if it goes to far, call the police. thats what they are for. if he doesnt respect the police and keeps at it. It seems as you are both potentially prepared for that too.

I've always thought I had exceptional skills in finding people. I found put how much of an amateur I was from an experience I had.

Several years ago while returning from a TDY, I met a woman in a restaurant in the Orlando airport (she was sitting next to me at the counter). In the course of the conversation, I told her my FIRST name and that I was in the Air Force. I must have also told her I was returning to Colorado Springs. She was taking the same flight from Orlando to Denver, but as I recall, she was flying on to Vegas or somewhere in CA. She worked for some insurance company as an auditor/investigator.

During the flight, she walks by my seat and hands me a note; she's attracted to me. I make it clear I'm married. Less than a week later, I got a call at my desk at work - from her. Somehow she tracked me down without me ever telling her my last name or which of the 4 AF bases in the Springs I worked at. After several of these calls, I insisted she stop contacting me.

I didn't hear from her for almost 2 years. In the mean time, I PCS'd to outside of Boston, MA. While there, I created a new eMail address for my Comcast account, but the email account didn't use my actual name. Wouldn't you know it, I started getting eMail from her - she'd found me again. This woman has some seriously mad tracking skills that even the CIA could learn from. After a couple of months, she finally stopped.

Before retiring and leaving MA, I created a new yahoo mail account with a whole new username. I moved back to the Springs and all was good for about 2 years. Then, out of the blue, I hear from her again. She was married now. She sent me links and invites to her webcam to have video chats. I ignored her and finally, she stopped. I haven't heard from her in almost 5 years, but I suspect, if she wanted, she could find me again at any point.

Moral of the story.... Some folks have almost magical abilities for finding people and it always seems to be the nuts.

[BPTactical]

and he speaks better english then me

Jerseynese DOES NOT qualify as English.......

[theGinsue]

BTW: here's a link to a site that offers a 4 camera surveillance system accessible via tv, web, etc. for just $300. Not the best system, but I have a coworker who bought it and loves it.

[Spdu4ia]

Thanks for the heads up . I can put one inside and three out,

[lead_magnet]

I've always thought I had exceptional skills in finding people. I found put how much of an amateur I was from an experience I had.

Several years ago while returning from a TDY, I met a woman in a restaurant in the Orlando airport (she was sitting next to me at the counter). In the course of the conversation, I told her my FIRST name and that I was in the Air Force. I must have also told her I was returning to Colorado Springs. She was taking the same flight from Orlando to Denver, but as I recall, she was flying on to Vegas or somewhere in CA. She worked for some insurance company as an auditor/investigator.

During the flight, she walks by my seat and hands me a note; she's attracted to me. I make it clear I'm married. Less than a week later, I got a call at my desk at work - from her. Somehow she tracked me down without me ever telling her my last name or which of the 4 AF bases in the Springs I worked at. After several of these calls, I insisted she stop contacting me.

I didn't hear from her for almost 2 years. In the mean time, I PCS'd to outside of Boston, MA. While there, I created a new eMail address for my Comcast account, but the email account didn't use my actual name. Wouldn't you know it, I started getting eMail from her - she'd found me again. This woman has some seriously mad tracking skills that even the CIA could learn from. After a couple of months, she finally stopped.

Before retiring and leaving MA, I created a new yahoo mail account with a whole new username. I moved back to the Springs and all was good for about 2 years. Then, out of the blue, I hear from her again. She was married now. She sent me links and invites to her webcam to have video chats. I ignored her and finally, she stopped. I haven't heard from her in almost 5 years, but I suspect, if she wanted, she could find me again at any point.

Moral of the story.... Some folks have almost magical abilities for finding people and it always seems to be the nuts.

You suck at telling stories, and have left out critical data.

Was she hot?

[SuperiorDG]

You suck at telling stories, and have left out critical data.

Was she hot?

Yea I bet she was hot like this.