Quote Originally Posted by Inconel710 View Post
Oh, sharing the money doesn't create domestic harmony or anything magical. Just ask my first wife!

It's a trust thing. When you keep the finances separate (for whatever reason) it implies a lack of trust. Now, that may work for you and your wife, Jer, but in both of my marriages it would have failed (I was active duty Navy and they had to pay bills while I was incommunicado). Now that I'm not going to sea anymore, I wouldn't change a thing. If anything, it forces me to talk to my wife more often than I probably would otherwise and keeps us on the same page. Any relationship involves trust and I see things like separate accounts and pre-nups as neon signs blinking "I DON"T TRUST YOU".
Saying that keeping our money separate implies we don't trust each other is 1950's thinking. It just makes more sense. How do unmarried people in the military pay their bills?