What do you do if your kid is being bullied?

[Colorado_Outback]

That's the problem- I started HS in Jefferson County the year after Columbine, do you have any idea how tyrannical that was? We weren't even allowed backpacks my freshman year! You fought, regardless of who started it or whatnot, or even if you didn't throw a punch, both parties were suspended. That's how incredibly fucking stupid zero tolerance is. What kind of a lesson is that teaching kids? Even if you defend yourself you're still bad? If someone is attacking you, you hit that MFer. That's what I was taught and that's what I'll teach my kids.

I got suspended when I finally stood up for my self and punched that asshat Fletcher Sargent in the throat.

My point was I wish I was thought to stand up for myself from the beginning, It would have saved me about 6 years of turmoil.

[TFOGGER]

I got picked on a LOT in elementary school because I was kinda scrawny. The summer between 6th and 7th grade I gained about 8 inches in height and 50 lbs. I got picked on exactly ONCE in 7th grade. The kid that used to pick on me the year before decided that it would be fun to walk up behind me and kidney punch me. I ignored the poorly placed kidney punch, turned around and took him to the ground where I pummeled him until we were pulled apart. He got suspended, I got a stern talking to. I miss the late 70s. *sigh*

[TheGrey]

My little brother got picked on a lot because he got a concussion that stunted his growth. He took tae kwan do to help boost his confidence, and he actually managed to deal with all but one bully.

I took care of that one. I did not do it gracefully, but I did succeed in making him piss himself in front of many spectators. He never bothered my little brother again.

I hate bullies.

[th3w01f]

+1 for the BJJ.

Our kids 9 & 6 have been doing it for about a year and it has really helped their confidence as well as physical abilities. My 9 year old 50 lb daughter could choke me unconscious if I didn't immediately react. The plus with bullies is no one to say that your kid punched or kicked the other kid, they kind of hugged.

http://tosh.comedycentral.com/video-...---chick-choke

[rockhound]

I tell both of my sons to never start a fight but to do what ever it takes to finish them.

i have the same philosophy, when my son was told by the principal, she is gone thankfully, that he was not allowed to fight back i taught him two things,
1. don't start the fight, you wont be in trouble at home,
2. you wont be in trouble with me for finishing a fight either

he told his principal what i had taught him, i got the pissy phone call about undermining school rules and authority, I told her that i would not allow her to make my son a victim by threatening to punish him for defending himself. I told her i did not care what the schools policy was, if they suspended him for defending himself then so be it, but he was not going to take a beating and that he would not be in trouble with me when he got home regardless of the policy

She does not like me very much.

As for your buddy's kid, time to stand up for himself. If he gets suspended, that is the way it goes, if he is smaller than the other kid then I have been where he is, and it has been decades since anyone scared me or took advantage of me, I put and end to my bully when i was in 3rd grade, i have always been on the smaller side, always have some big dickhead that thinks hes tough cause he outweighs me by 70 lbs. a few years of martial arts and a few fights and people learn that even if they beat me they are going to know they have been in a fight. made high school a lot easier

the kid needs to make a fight of it, he doesn't have to win, but this kid will keep it up until he decides the kid is not an easy target. make him understand that he is going to get hurt also.

[Squeeze]

I dont have kids either but if I did and someone's kid was bullying mine, I would confront the parents, if it continued, id drag the kids dad out of his house by his ears and show him how bullying feels.

Exactly what I was thinking.

[sniper7]

teach the kid how to fight, by whatever means necessary, beat the living shit out of the bully and it will stop. he will get suspended most likely, but he won't live in fear at school or around the kid any more and his confidence will be improved.

or pull him out of the school where he will probably get bullied at the next one, or become less sociable being home schooled, or let the kid continue to be beat up, put down, have things taken from him and he might end up committing suicide or killing someone.

[n8tive97]

Contact Rhonda Fields... I know, I know, i'm being shitty....

[spyder]

Our daughter beat the shit out of the boy that was picking on her. She did everything necessary to try to prevent it, but when the boy continued, she put him in his place.

[sniper7]

+1 for the BJJ.

Our kids 9 & 6 have been doing it for about a year and it has really helped their confidence as well as physical abilities. My 9 year old 50 lb daughter could choke me unconscious if I didn't immediately react. The plus with bullies is no one to say that your kid punched or kicked the other kid, they kind of hugged.

http://tosh.comedycentral.com/video-...---chick-choke

that video was awesome!