View Full Version : And boom goes the dynamite...
BEELZEBOB
04-04-2013, 13:20
Well i was going to get married this summer.
I was going to have a baby too. But we lost the baby a month ago and she turned cold...
Literally threw the ring at me on Sunday.
I'm moving out, but Shane Co. will only give me 50% of my 6k back...
Now Im just waiting for my truck to break down and my dog to die, LOL and I could write a country song.
But in all seriousness, anyone know a good Jeweler?
griebel303
04-04-2013, 13:24
Damn man. Sorry to hear that. Hopefully things start looking up for you. The only jeweler I really work with is Shane Co as well, but I haven't tried to sell anything back to them.
BEELZEBOB
04-04-2013, 13:28
No worries, such is life right?
Crap dude, I'm sorry you're having to go through that mess. I wish there was something I could do or say that would help. Do you think she's just cold because of the emotional turmoil of the miscarriage, or is there truly no hope of rectifying your relationship? Have you considered standing strong for her and by her side during this, that maybe it might save at least that part of it?... not to mention possibly avoiding the loss on the ring.
HBARleatherneck
04-04-2013, 13:32
i dont usually comment on thesekind of threads but....
I am truly sorry for the loss of the baby. I cant know how you feel about it, but it would kill me. I can only imagine the pain that both of you are going through. If you truly love her, dont say anything that you cant take back. Hurt does eventually subside and maybe progress can be made to restore your relationship.
BEELZEBOB
04-04-2013, 14:04
Thanks guys.
She has pushed my away for a long time. Even prior to the miscarriage. In her own words she has been unbelievably cruel.
Its only been 5 days, but right now I feel that it would be best to just stop before it gets any worse.
It was just another hard blow to find I lost 3k on her instability...
jhood001
04-04-2013, 14:07
It was just another hard blow to find I lost 3k on her instability...
3 grand is a small price to pay if it prevents you from having a miserable marriage. Best of luck to ya.
^^^ what he said.
Best luck to you.
If you have eBay account, you might get more $$ for it.
If you have an original case, credit card statement , original receipt, duplicate receipt from Shane might get you more $$$ on auction site.
Sorry to hear about the loss of the baby, if it makes you feel any better at least you didn't bring up an innocent child in the relationship. Imagine the long term consequences of that!
Chad4000
04-04-2013, 14:13
wow... very sorry to hear man...
wARmachine15
04-04-2013, 14:14
Keep your head up brother. That's a lot for any man to go through. Each day will get a little easier than the one before.
Sorry to hear this man, your in my prayers.
Sorry about your loss.
If someone is looking to make a purchase there you may be able to work something out to get more $$$ back. You can get full credit for a trade in as long as you're spending $1 more so someone pays you $4500, you meet there and they get their $6001 piece of jewelry for $4501.
The exact trade in will depend on how much was spent on the ring vs diamond.
http://www.shaneco.com/about/upgradetradein.htmx
BEELZEBOB
04-04-2013, 14:26
I love you guys.
This is the type of logic I need to bombard my brain with.
Happiness is worth a lot more than 3k
wARmachine15
04-04-2013, 14:51
Happiness is worth a lot more than 3k
I've had life lessons cost me much more than that. And more than once. You'll look back on it and feel like you really dodged a bullet someday.
Thanks guys.
She has pushed my away for a long time. Even prior to the miscarriage. In her own words she has been unbelievably cruel.
Its only been 5 days, but right now I feel that it would be best to just stop before it gets any worse.
It was just another hard blow to find I lost 3k on her instability...
Divorce later on would cost more than 3k and be more of an emotional toll.
Damn, sorry to hear... Let's turn that frown upside down, wanna go punch some paper with America's most popular family of sporting rifles? [AR15]
Seriously, when I'm feeling down, or had a shit hand dealt to me, I go take my frustration, depression, whathaveyou out on some good old fashioned police training targets at the range... that or tannerite.
kidicarus13
04-04-2013, 15:00
3 grand is a small price to pay if it prevents you from having a miserable marriage. Best of luck to ya.
Since jewelry store jewelry is marked up so much consider it a $3K lesson and move forward best you can. Next time you buy an engagemenmt ring buy it with the intention that you will never get it back, you could have lost the entire $6K value of the ring. I look at it like loaning money to friends and family ...if you can't afford to not get paid back, don't offer the money. Oh ya... and time will slowly numb the hurt.
Better $3 grand now than half of everything in five years.... Just sayin'.
I love you guys.
This is the type of logic I need to bombard my brain with.
Happiness is worth a lot more than 3k
Trade it in for something for yourself, like a Rolex Submariner. Wear it and enjoy it and it's probably easier to sell down the road than a ring.
3 grand is a small price to pay if it prevents you from having a miserable marriage. Best of luck to ya.
Truer words never spoken.
Regardless... Sorry for the loss of your child, that hurts my heart.
colorider
04-04-2013, 15:38
I have a very good jeweler I deal with in Texas. If you want his information , just send me a pm.
Take the 3k and order 2 tavors. Sell them for 2x what you paid.
Next problem?
Byte Stryke
04-04-2013, 16:50
Man, I am so sorry to hear about the loss of your Baby.
I would literally curl up and die.
As far as the woman thing... you are ONLY losing $3K
Could have been a house, a car and half of your crap...
I'm so sorry to hear of your loss of the baby, and your wife. I can only imagine your pain
you must be having. My prayers go out to you sir.
Sorry to hear about your situation. Total bummer, but it could have been worse. Life has taught me it can always be worse.
Best wishes for a happier future!
A Submariner. Great watch don't get me wrong, but rolex has so many better time pieces like the day date, or date just. I'm a Breitling guy myself. But for the money and resale value rolex is the way to go. Rolex increases in value by 20% every year you own it.
Trade it in for something for yourself, like a Rolex Submariner. Wear it and enjoy it and it's probably easier to sell down the road than a ring.
clublights
04-04-2013, 20:53
3K??
7K cheaper then my divorce.......
And she kept that ring too LOL
I can say my wife and I went through several miscarriages before our son was born. We also had a couple of rocky moments in the marriage. If God intended for things to be different, they would be. Yes, 3K is hard to lose and a baby is even harder to lose. Although the relationship cannot be recovered, you can be. Stay strong, move on. Keep the ring, you may find a woman who is kind and will treat you the way you deserve. When that happens, the ring will no longer be a loss. A lot of good advice being brought by others here. All I can add is to keep putting one foot in front of the other and this too shall pass.
buckshotbarlow
04-04-2013, 21:36
Damn dude, i know your thinking your down on your luck, but my buddy just went through the same thing, miscarriage, divorce...Look at this way, it's a new start on life, and if you don't get busy living, then your gonna start dying...
Jeffrey Lebowski
04-04-2013, 21:40
Obviously don't know you, but that's a tough story. :(
Sorry to hear you're having such a rough go of it now.
Trade it in for something for yourself, like a Rolex Submariner. Wear it and enjoy it and it's probably easier to sell down the road than a ring.
This ain't a bad idea.
Caithford
04-04-2013, 21:49
Well i was going to get married this summer.
I was going to have a baby too. But we lost the baby a month ago and she turned cold...
Literally threw the ring at me on Sunday.
I'm moving out, but Shane Co. will only give me 50% of my 6k back...
Now Im just waiting for my truck to break down and my dog to die, LOL and I could write a country song.
But in all seriousness, anyone know a good Jeweler?
There are no words for what you've been through.
In my opinion, hold onto it. They'll give you up to 100% if you "upgrade" later. Granted, that means dropping another 6k to get a 12k item, but it's that or trying to sell it for 5k on your own.
Dalendenver
04-05-2013, 01:41
I'm sorry to hear about the trials you are going through. I won't say it could be worse because you probably feel like it couldn't be much worse. I can't imagine what it would be like to lose a child and then the one you made it with. I hope things get better for you.
robertcolorado2009
04-05-2013, 06:46
Try to sell it on consignment at a jewelry store. I know of one on Colfax in Lakewood, that does that. That's how/where I got mine for my wife. There's another jewelry store called D&K's on Kippling in Arvada, I believe they might do the consignment sales thing too. Good luck! Sorry bout all of this, I've been divorced 3 times, so I know what you're going thru, believe me!
Tinelement
04-05-2013, 06:50
Sorry to hear about your run of bad luck.
Total bummer!
It was just another hard blow to find I lost 3k on her instability...
I'm sorry for the loss of the baby.
As far as the money... You got out lucky, really lucky. I would personally be extremely estatic to have only lost 3 grand in either of my two divorces.
BPTactical
04-05-2013, 09:32
Condolences amigo.
One thing that hasn't been mentioned, our womenfolk go through some really substantial changes when pregnant. Most react well but others go nutbars. Hormonal changes, vitamin and mineral deficiencies etc can all play a role.
Funny story along a similar line, my best bud went through a similar situation with his ex. She threw the ring at him and he did not pick it up right away in case she changed her mind, but she would have to pick it up-he would not pick it up and give it to her on his principals. Kudos to him. Finally after 4 days he picked it up and stashed it. A couple days later she tells him she wants the ring back and he tells her he doesn't have it.
Her:
"Where the hell is it"?
Him:
"I don't know, maybe the dog ate it, I saw him playing with it".
The dumb twat believed him and spent the next week poking through the dog shit in the yard.
Poetic justice.
Condolences amigo.
One thing that hasn't been mentioned, our womenfolk go through some really substantial changes when pregnant. Most react well but others go nutbars. Hormonal changes, vitamin and mineral deficiencies etc can all play a role.
Funny story along a similar line, my best bud went through a similar situation with his ex. She threw the ring at him and he did not pick it up right away in case she changed her mind, but she would have to pick it up-he would not pick it up and give it to her on his principals. Kudos to him. Finally after 4 days he picked it up and stashed it. A couple days later she tells him she wants the ring back and he tells her he doesn't have it.
Her:
"Where the hell is it"?
Him:
"I don't know, maybe the dog ate it, I saw him playing with it".
The dumb twat believed him and spent the next week poking through the dog shit in the yard.
Poetic justice.
Oh that's fantastic :)
Aloha_Shooter
04-05-2013, 10:16
I'm with the guys saying trade the ring in on something you would use (or sell at less of a loss) like the Rolex Submariner. Very sorry to hear about the miscarriage but perhaps it was God's way of saving you AND the baby pain and grief down the road. In the end, $3000 is pretty cheap as life lessons go -- certainly less than a divorce and child support would have been -- and you get to go on with your life sooner rather than wasting years TRYING to make it work.
I'm very sorry to hear of the heartaches you've endured in the past couple months. The loss of your baby is beyond words, and the realization of painful distance between you and your beloved is clearly still being felt by you. :( I hope you are able to heal soon, with minimal scarring.
I believe the suggestion to trading the engagement ring in for something you can use, something that gives you pleasure, is a good idea. If you are not a jewelry/watch type of person, I personally would trade the ring in for plain gold or silver rings that may be sold later, or used for barter.
I'm with the guys saying trade the ring in on something you would use (or sell at less of a loss) like the Rolex Submariner.
Another vote for that approach. -if strictly looking at this from a financial standpoint, get the Rolex Sub/GMT/sport-model-of-your-choosing, keep ALL the paperwork/box/hang-tag/anchor/COSC certificate/receipt. If you just want to recoup your money, sell the Rolex in a couple of years at a profit, they do not go down in value if you choose the right model.
BEELZEBOB
04-05-2013, 14:10
I gotta say, this is a highly under appreciated group of people.
That watch,
Or maybe a rifle....
Anyone with a Preada-OBR in 7.62 wanna get married?
LOL.. tear
Death of a child is the one thing that will end a marriage more then any other thing even money. So you might look at this a grieving and hart broken thing she does not understand and want to push you away. you might do well to look at the grieving you need to do for both of the people you have lost. I wish I could do more for you
Sorry for your loss. Keep your chin up man, things will get better one day at a time.
palepainter
04-05-2013, 22:47
Sorry to hear of the loss and difficulties. Trying times for sure. Hang in there man.
USAFGopherMike
04-05-2013, 22:55
That's poop. Tomorrow is a new day and I hope the wounds heal with time.
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