What do you do if your kid is being bullied?

[DaBull]

Watch the recent documentary "Bully". You will see how twisted the school administrator, public safety officer, and even some parents' logic can be. I think one conclusion of the movie is you may have to involve lawyers and the press to get action with some schools. In fact, I would attack on multiple fronts to ensure a victory: demanding action from the school, filing complaints/pressing charges with police, getting the lawyers and press involved when officials fail to act, and documenting all of it. If your bullied kid is not alone, get all the bullied kids to take marital arts.

[Great-Kazoo]

I went to her HS school had a sit down with her teachers and the principal, after confirming there was an issue. Explained how our daughter had our permission to deal with any potential threat as she saw fit. Informed them as she was an honor student, IF they even considered suspending or expelling her after she fought back, i'd own them, the school and anything they ever looked at. Walked out with a firm assurance and hand shake from the Principal, VP and school board nothing would happen to our daughter.

We had a small issue in the jr hs , so i went to her meet the teachers gig. Her teacher it seemed had issues with females, including implying my wife was fabricating a story. Well about 5 min into him running his mouth, i asked him if he was lying, or saying, my wife and daughter were, as i stood up walked around the desk and sat on it looking at him about this close >< ....
Either you defend your child by any means necessary [ PROVIDING THEY ARE IN THE RIGHT] and not running some scam on you, OR you do not. IF they are in the right and you do nothing, you have no reason to be a parent and should be castrated.

[gnihcraes]

Late to this discussion. Notify the authority (director of daycare, principle of school etc) of everything that is happening, let them know that you've told your child to defend themselves the next time they get bullied.

I did this with my son at daycare, about 9 years old. He had a years worth of Karate in him at the time. Fought back to the bully once, very minor incident, both were suspended for a day or two. We took the lumps for that and the other kid was not let back into the daycare. His parents were pissed. Having to find another daycare etc. Loss of money paid to the daycare for the remaining days/weeks.

Director of the daycare was fully aware of what was going to happen. Essentially approved of it, they had enough of the kid too and needed more proof.

[Madusa]

Teach your kid to fight back! Best lesson ever. No more victim bull.

[Mazin]

Have no clue, the days of meeting on the playground are over. Yea we are more "Evolved" now.


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[bryjcom]

I'm sure its been mentioned before....

Best way to stop a bully is to fight them. Even if you loose, you now become more trouble than its worth. It worked for me and I will teach my kids to face bullies head on.

[bryjcom]

[rondog]

THAT, was great! Shoulda smacked the asshole one more time for good measure, since he was still sitting up. Shoulda smacked a couple of those yappy bitches too. Perfect example of...

[Clint45]

teach the kid how to fight, by whatever means necessary, beat the living shit out of the bully and it will stop.

The problem is that the average bully is significantly larger, if not older, than the victims they target . . . and they tend to run in packs. No way a small, weak, timid child can hope to "beat the living shit out of" three guys who are over twice his size. He will get his ass kicked . . . but he needs to fight them anyway. Nothing scares bullies more than someone they cannot beat because he will not give up, will not stay down, and will continue to bring the fight to them. He will get hurt, he will probably get suspended too, but after showing heart a few times everyone will respect him and no-one in that school will bully him again.

[Dunecrazzy]

My son was picked on in JR high, I told him to fight back but he wouldn't . He came home and said his home work got tore up walking home. I asked him what happen. He said some kid (the bully) pulled his back pack off and tore his books up.
I called the school. Same BS. We have to see it on school grounds. I thought I would take it in to my own hands.
I asked around where this kid lived. Took my son to his house rang the door bell the little SOB answered the door. Should of seen the look on his face. I asked him if his dad was home. His dad came to he door with his SOB kid behind him. I said we have a problem. I was hoping you could help me with it.
I explained to him the problem and asked if he would talk to his son. I was very nice at asking. Thinking we could handle this like
adults . WRONG....He looked at me and said.. Your kid needs to stop being a pussy. I didn't know what to say. I was like WTF did he just say. I thought everything was going good. He looked concerned and thought I was getting thru to him then this.
The only thing I could think was to tell him this.

The next time your kid does one thing to my son. I'm coming back here in front of your family and kicking your ass! You will see how it feels! We turned and walked away.

I told my son to get in the truck and we left. Nothing was said on the way home. The bully never said touched or picked on my son again.
Not the way I thought it would go. It starts at home. The kids parents suck.to bad your going thru this. Something at home is making this kid act out. Maybe his shity parents.

I would go talk to his parents. I would want to know if my child was acting out in school.