MED: Thanks for the advice. This guy claimed to have some mental disorder and got full SS disability. It's total bullshit, but anyone can get on disability these days with Obama at the helm. So, he's off the hook for child support. Before he was on disability - zero payments. And we aren't concerned about the money AT ALL anyway.

In the beginning, we had no problem with Austin visiting his dad. It's his friggin dad after all. He was granted visitation but never once asked to see his kid - in 7 years. No birthday or Christmas gifts. No going to basketball games, asking about his grades, etc., etc. It's like he never existed.

I read up on adoption a bit here lately and it seems that I could get full rights if he either "abandoned" the child for more than one year or didn't pay and child support for more than one year. Seems like a slam dunk for both, but I know that nothing is cut and dried in things like this. I just want this kid to feel like he's 100% a part of the family. He is of course, but he's at the age where he's asking questions, and want there to be no doubt in his mind.