Easiest way to file for divorce?

[Kraven251]

Kids involved, cheating involved, limited resources on her side, get a lawyer.

[JohnnyDrama]

Kids involved, cheating involved, limited resources on her side, get a lawyer.

My first wife came home one night and told me she was done being married. End of discussion. I didn't know what was going on in her head but there was no reasoning with her. We did not have kids, and all I had was camping gear, a kayak, and some rifles. Basically nothing she wanted from me. She had a butt-load of debt. We had nothing of value between us. I took the initiative and went to a friend who walked me through the County Clerk process. She went to a lawyer who seemed to do the same thing I did. The papers were basically identical. I have no idea how much that cost her but, interestingly, when I went to see said lawyer, he and his clerk greeted me as a long lost friend and seemed like they'd much rather deal with me than her. I left hoping he wasn't going to be stiffed. I really think I got lucky. I'm confident that had there been children or a house I would have been screwed big time. I strongly advise some sort of legal protection.

I'm really sorry to hear about your situation - all the divorce stories here make me sad.

I wish you the best in recovering from this life-changing event.

Big plus one there. Even though I feel like I dodged a bullet, it was the lowest time of my life. Get together with friends and pursue a hobby together. I had some great friends when I was going through my divorce.

[Irving]

"No fault" generally doesn't mean what it sounds like, and although I've been able to avoid divorce thus far, I'm willing to bet that it also has nothing to do with cheating either.


Also, while I can't give great advice here, in the case of this divorce (at least for now) there is someone else involved, and you can bet that he'll be having an opinion on what she should and shouldn't do as well. If it wasn't the new guy, then it'd be her friends. Fortunately, and sometimes unfortunately, we don't exist in little bubbles and are influenced by others.

[Wulf202]

I don't have anything to say about the divorce advise.

If you need an ear or shoulder. I'm just down the road. You have my cell. Feel free to use it.

[Firehaus]

I'd set up some interviews with divorce attorneys so you'll be ahead of the game if/ when mediation goes bad. Always good to have a plan B.


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[Kraven251]

Colorado is a no fault state, so the cheating is irrelevant to a divorce court and does not influence child allocation, distribution of assets or anything else. Generally speaking you usually won't even be able to bring it up in court.

except cheating is a mindset thing...they have reached a mental point where they don't actually give a shit and will risk what they have for something else. It isn't about the legal manifestation, it is about the mindset and what that means when stressed, like in front of a judge.