Advice from stepdads...

[ray1970]

As a guy who has helped raise two step kids, my serious advice for you is to man-up and start being a good example for these kids. It's not their fault their real dad isn't around to raise them right. You knew she had kids before you decided to commit to the relationship. Drinking in front of the kids is not the example you want to set for them. Even if you don't like the little buggers, I would assume you like their mother enough to do her the favor of being a good role model to her kids of what a real man should be like.

If you can't do that, my serious advice to you is to move on and let someone else step in that can do the right thing.

[Great-Kazoo]

As a guy who has helped raise two step kids, my serious advice for you is to man-up and start being a good example for these kids. It's not their fault their real dad isn't around to raise them right. You knew she had kids before you decided to commit to the relationship. Drinking in front of the kids is not the example you want to set for them. Even if you don't like the little buggers, I would assume you like their mother enough to do her the favor of being a good role model to her kids of what a real man should be like.

If you can't do that, my serious advice to you is to move on and let someone else step in that can do the right thing.

+100%. If you are unable to function w/out alcohol, you are the last one to admit you have a problem. Enough of the lecture from me,the next step (the longest) is up to you.

[hobowh]

This I have 3 step kids and agree with this 100% It is hard sometimes but you signed uo for it buckle down and take care of business.

As a guy who has helped raise two step kids, my serious advice for you is to man-up and start being a good example for these kids. It's not their fault their real dad isn't around to raise them right. You knew she had kids before you decided to commit to the relationship. Drinking in front of the kids is not the example you want to set for them. Even if you don't like the little buggers, I would assume you like their mother enough to do her the favor of being a good role model to her kids of what a real man should be like.

If you can't do that, my serious advice to you is to move on and let someone else step in that can do the right thing.

[rockhound]

As a guy who has helped raise two step kids, my serious advice for you is to man-up and start being a good example for these kids. It's not their fault their real dad isn't around to raise them right. You knew she had kids before you decided to commit to the relationship. Drinking in front of the kids is not the example you want to set for them. Even if you don't like the little buggers, I would assume you like their mother enough to do her the favor of being a good role model to her kids of what a real man should be like.

If you can't do that, my serious advice to you is to move on and let someone else step in that can do the right thing.

this ^^^^^^^^^

i am not a step dad, i have four of my own and plan to be around to raise them myself.

i was however raised by a stepdad because my own wasn't around, not that i blame him completely,
you chose it, you knew what you were getting into before hand,
I spent plenty of my days drinking and raising hell when i was younger, time to grow up and become a role model. you don't have the right to come in and make their lives worse. you took on the job now own it and do the job.

my stepdad and i had plenty of fights and i did not like even like him at the time. i have come to realize, now that he is gone, that although we did not get along at least he was willing to try and be a dad. his misguided attempts to discipline were more than my dad did for me.

put down the beer and start doing the right thing. my kids have seen me drink a beer or margarita, they have never seen me drunk.

[sroz]

As a guy who has helped raise two step kids, my serious advice for you is to man-up and start being a good example for these kids. It's not their fault their real dad isn't around to raise them right. You knew she had kids before you decided to commit to the relationship. Drinking in front of the kids is not the example you want to set for them. Even if you don't like the little buggers, I would assume you like their mother enough to do her the favor of being a good role model to her kids of what a real man should be like.

If you can't do that, my serious advice to you is to move on and let someone else step in that can do the right thing.

Exactly! You married a family. Accept the responsibility. Another thing.....you constantly refer to them as someone else's kids or her kids. If you're serious about this, start thinking of them as YOUR kids. Mean it and love them. Sounds like mom did a good job and they are good kids. Now do your part. Good luck with your decision.