Death.

Sorry for your losses. I lost my dad then two months later my mom, a year later my grandma then my uncle commited suicide a week later. I couldnt tell you who was at the funerals cause i was in shock but im grateful for all who went. When a close friend passed after that i couldnt handle anymore death and was not gonna go. The day of the funeral i ended up going but sat in the back and didnt go see him in the casket. I wanted my memories of the last time i see him to not be of him in a coffin. Do what you feel in your heart and dont have regrets. I hope this helps. Good luck.

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Originally Posted by Ashton

I just honestly feel like once someones dead they're dead. I've watched quite a few people die and they don't come back. Which is why I feel that sitting in chairs listening to stories and shit isn't going to do any good or bring them back which is why I honestly don't wan't to go. In reality you'll remember them for the person they were no matter what. No "service" is going to change that IMHO. I just don't see the point in sitting in a chair with tons of people crying around you. But I'm not quite sure if it's disrespectful.

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My wife and I feel the same way as you. Once you're dead, you're dead. They have the luxury of not caring anymore.The only reason to go is if you were close with other people who would be there at the ceremony. Personally, unless that was the case, I'd simply go myself sometime later for a private rememberance.

When my sister in law died at 29 I did not attend the viewing portion of the service, eventhough I was a pallbearer.
The BIL was pretty offended I did not go to it but about a year later I was able to put it into words.
I told him that my last memory of her was her sitting on the couch bouncing my niece on her knee. I did not want my last vision of her to be in a casket.

So very sorry to hear of your rough year, nobody can tell you the "right" way to put things in place.

Thanks for everyones input. I think I've mad my decision.

Prayers sent and God speed.

Please accept our condolences.

I hear ya man. Lost my dad after a brief but brutal 8 week battle with cancer last month. Trying to do the happy holiday stuff with the wife & kids but deep down Im just not in the mood this year for any of it.
If it could be Jan 2, 2013 tomorrow, I'd gladly take it in a heartbeat.

So sorry for your losses. I never was very good at the whole funeral, wake thing. But go if you can. It helps just being around the people that loved them. It helped me bring some closure with my grandparents when they passed.

Although it has probably been said numerous times above, going to a memorial service/funeral is more for giving support to the surviving family and friends..... IMHO.
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you will never regret going, will you ever regret not going?