Send it or not?

[th3w01f]

I say send it (and follow it up with a call, and a few text messages), if there are problems that need to be brought out in the open then so be it. If a few unconformable sentences are gong to ruin everything then the whole relationship is already fucked. I'm probably in the minority here but I strongly feel that if someone isn't adding value to your families lives then there's no reason to stay in touch, fuck em. I've had this argument with a few family members who couldn't believe that I could never talk to someone in the family again without feeling bad about it.

But then again...

All I ever settled for is that we're born to live and then to die, and... we got to do it alone, each in his own way. And I guess that's why we got to love those people who deserve it like there's no tomorrow. 'Cause when you get right down to it - there isn't.

Key part being "'those people who deserve it".

[Katastrophic]

I'm a fan of cathartic writing but I'm not sure she should send it.... Something similar happened to me with my sister-in-law, so this is more experience than anything else. I wrote down the good, the bad, and the ugly - EVERYTHING. I didn't send it but I felt so much better about everything after writing that I just put it aside for awhile. I thought about what I was proud of and what I felt badly about in the letter. When I finally saw her again, I was able to talk more cohesively, without the high emotion, and I got my points across much better and she was able to hear what I meant, not what what I felt. We still talk today.

[Great-Kazoo]

Do it or do not. Either way one has to live with the BS all around. Perhaps the sister getting that letter then showing it around, decrying how terrible your wife is. Might have some of the family and ex friends say. You know she is right.

Your wife's health and well being are more important than anything else.

[brutal]

hahaha, Candygram for Mongo!

[mtnrider]

Don't do it. I have seen this happen on my mom's side of the family. It will never end. Better for both of them to suck it up and take a step back and remember how important family is.

[HoneyBadger]

Is the letter apologetic? Is your wife trying to make amends? If so, sending it may yield healthy results.


Is the letter accusatory? Is she just speaking her mind? Don't send it.

[DavieD55]

Is the letter apologetic? Is your wife trying to make amends? If so, sending it may yield healthy results.


Is the letter accusatory? Is she just speaking her mind? Don't send it.

This^

[Great-Kazoo]

Is the letter apologetic? Is your wife trying to make amends? If so, sending it may yield healthy results.


Is the letter accusatory? Is she just speaking her mind? Don't send it.

What's wrong with her speaking her mind ? Sometimes one has to call a family member out. No matter how hard it is. It either cures or kills off the relationship. In her case might be better to do so. Outside the OP's post we really don't know the family dynamic. Based on his post the sister is a trouble making O2 breather. You want to mend fences with that?

[wyome]

Sometimes there are people in your life that do not add to your life. If the relationship is really worth saving then there must be communication...but not this letter. Sometimes even with family you need to cut ties and move along. My sister, and her drama and lies haven't been part of my life for the past 20yrs..oh well.

[Great-Kazoo]

. Sometimes even with family you need to cut ties and move along. My sister, and her drama and lies haven't been part of my life for the past 20yrs..oh well.

Sorry to hear it but, Thank You.